Author Archive

Queer life | Mourning the end of a friendship: As queer people, often living our lives far from our families, we tend to make friendships that ultimately come to resemble family.

Motlatsi Motseoile | Yearning for family: "The past few months have been a reminder of our mortality." Motlatsi Motseoile writes about his longing, as a single gay man, to become a dad.

Gay dating | Facing the demons that prevent us from finding love: Gay dating is hard enough thanks to homophobia and heteronormativity, so why do we make it even harder, asks Motlatsi Motseoile.

Motlatsi Motseoile | What does IDAHOBIT mean to me?: As we mark IDAHOBIT, the past few weeks have been filled with trauma and conversations about our safety as queer people in South Africa.

Opinion | Would I be me, if I wasn’t gay?: Motlatsi Motseoile writes about how being gay left him with no choice but to be excellent so as to be heard, respected and afforded the space to exist.

Gay life | What it’s like being the other man: Whatever the real or perceived morality of being in an extramarital affair, these relationships continue to happen. So what's it like being the "other man?, asks"

Opinion | Let 2021 be the year of enlightened and shame-free queer sex: Motlatsi Motseoile hopes that in this new year we'll normalise talking about and enjoying enlightened and shame-free queer sexuality.

Opinion | Do queer celebrities owe us good role modelling?: Should queer celebrities like Somizi Mhlongo be expected to be role models or are we demanding too much from public figures?

Opinion | Would Simon Nkoli be proud of where we are today?: As we celebrate Pride in South Africa, Motlatsi Motseoile reflects on the memory of Simon Nkoli; one of the figures behind the first Pride march in Africa.

Gay dating | Reflecting on our love lives during lockdown: The dramatic impact of the lockdown on our social lives has led to many discussions about reassessing the nature and face of dating, especially among gay men.