PrEP “Slut-Shaming” – Pushing Back Against The Shame Game

When taken as prescribed, PrEP protects people from HIV by up to 99.9%. It sounds straightforward, right? Not exactly… While it’s a powerful tool in the fight against the HIV epidemic, PrEP hasn’t been free from drama and criticism.

People who use PrEP are often unfairly branded as promiscuous or irresponsible, with some labelling them as too lazy to use condoms. This unfair judgment is often referred to as PrEP slut-shaming.

Why Does Slut-Shaming Happen?

PrEP and slut-shaming , especially around pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), is when people judge or ridicule others for their sexual behaviour. So, why does this happen, even in our community?

–  Cultural Norms and Morality : Many people still hold onto old ideas about sex, thinking it should only happen within certain contexts, like in a committed monogamous relationship. These outdated views can persist even in the MSM community, leading to judgmental attitudes.

–  Fear and Misunderstanding : There’s a lot of misinformation about PrEP. Some think it encourages risky behaviour and isn’t needed for those who “behave responsibly.”

–  Internalised Stigma : Sometimes, people in our community might project their internal struggles and insecurities onto others. This often comes from having been judged themselves, creating a cycle of shame and blame.

–  Power Dynamics and Jealousy : Shaming others can be a way for some to feel powerful and in control, boosting their own status by putting down others. Sometimes slut-shaming comes down to the green-eyed monster. If someone perceives that another person is having more sex than they are, it can lead to judgment and shaming due to resentment or jealousy. In reality, the insecurity lies with the person doing the shaming.

–  Fear of HIV and Historical Trauma : The history of the HIV/AIDS crisis has left deep scars. Fear of HIV can lead to harsh judgments about those perceived as taking risks, even when using PrEP responsibly.

The Impact of Slut-Shaming

PrEP and slut-shaming  can seriously hurt both individuals and the community:

–  Mental Health Issues : Judgment and ridicule can lead to anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.

–  Avoidance of Health Services : Fear of being judged can keep people from accessing PrEP or other health services.

–  Increased Risk of STIs and HIV : Avoiding PrEP due to stigma can increase the risk of contracting HIV and other STIs.

Why PrEP Matters

PrEP is a game-changer in HIV prevention, backed by years of scientific research proving its effectiveness. Here’s why we should embrace PrEP without judgment:

–  Protection and Empowerment : PrEP lets people take control of their sexual health, protecting themselves, regardless of their partner’s status.

–  Normalising Sexual Health : Using PrEP is a responsible choice, showing that someone cares about their and their partner’s health.

–  Reducing Stigma : Talking openly about PrEP and its benefits helps shift the narrative from fear and judgment to understanding and acceptance.

How We Can Change This Perception

–  Education : Let’s spread the word about what PrEP is and why it’s important. Accurate information can dispel myths and reduce fear.

–  Positive Stories : Sharing stories from real people who use PrEP can help normalise it. When others see their friends and peers using PrEP responsibly, it breaks down stigma.

–  Open Conversations : Encouraging honest discussions about sexual health without judgment helps create a supportive community.

–  Challenge Old Norms : Question outdated beliefs about sex and sexuality. Embrace a more modern, accepting view that recognises everyone’s right to make their own informed choices.

–  Support Systems : Providing strong support systems, including counselling and peer support, can help individuals navigate the challenges of slut-shaming and make informed decisions about their health.

Dealing with Slut-Shaming Trolls and Online Stigma

Engaging with trolls online can be draining and often unproductive. Here are some tips to manage it:

–  Don’t React to Provocation : Trolls thrive on engagement. If you respond to inflammatory posts, you keep them alive and help spread misinformation. Sometimes, ignoring these posts is the best approach.

– Be Proactive : Start positive conversations about PrEP. Ask questions like, “Do you know where to get PrEP in your community?” and share resources.

–  Use Humour and Positivity : Share funny or sexy posts about PrEP to normalise its use and combat stigma. Humor can break down barriers and make the topic more approachable.

–  Share Resources : Share information about where to get PrEP, how to afford it, and other related resources. Education is crucial, but access is essential.

–  Walk Away When Needed : Everyone deserves access to sexual health services without fear of judgment or shame. By understanding why  PrEP and slut-shaming happens and working to change these perceptions, we can create a healthier, more accepting community. Let’s break the stigma together, one conversation at a time, and ensure everyone has the chance to lead a happy, healthy life. Remember, your health is your right. Don’t let anyone’s outdated ideas make you feel otherwise. Not every online battle is worth fighting. Sometimes, it’s best to disengage, take a break, and focus on positive actions.

 

Article courtesy of Engage Men’s Health, which offers free PrEP, ARVs, HIV management and other friendly and confidential sexual health services in Joburg, NMB, and Buffalo City for gay, bi, and other men who have sex with men. For more info or to make an appointment visit www.engagemenshealth.org.za or call/WhatsApp 082 607 1686.